Face the Truth & Learning to Love Yourself

are developed by Relation-Coach Sonja de Heer.

An active and spontaneous women of 40 years old, who loves to dance, skate, run, walk, swim, travel, talk, read, meditate, doing Yoga, coach & teach   and loves to cook for her friends, children, animals and nature.

Education 

After her VWO diploma, she graduated for her PABO and became a teacher for Primary Education. After a while she qualified herself in Management and Communicaton with specialisation in International Business.

Succesfull in Business

Sonja was businesswise very succesfull in teaching, Hotelmanagement, TrainingsManagement, Sales Management and International Purchasing Agent. At the age of 33, she decided to give up her International Career cause she felt there was more in life then only work.

She had a few more dreams and wishes but there was no time for them to realize them in this lifestyle. Taking this big step was one of the most difficult decisions she made during her life. She needed a Time Out to decide what she really wanted more out of life and what was important to her. But to really know what she wanted was not so easy after all.

She asked for professional help so she could understand herself better and the reason why she took this decision in life. Actually Sonja was fed up with identifying herself with what she did instead of with Who she truely is(was). Off course this path was rather difficult. Cause to know what you have but not knowing where you are going to, makes you very insecure. No money, no job.

Just be

Just be with yourself, is the best part to getting to know yourself. Her Job made her feel proud and very secure of herself, but actually without this job, she didnt feel so secure and proud of herself. So she had to find her innerpeace and happiness. Why didn't she love herself?? Cause serving your boss, company and collegues, is totally different then serving yourself, your family and your friends. She realized that she had stressed herself out with this job and never took or had time for herself, her own family, relatives and friends. The question for her was were to start if you really want to change yourself, your lifestyle, your relationships???

To Face the Truth was not easy!

When She finally saw what she had to give up in order to reach her International Career and Succes, she realized that she felt very lonely because of that. Off course it was a fantastic career and upportunity in life for her to express herself and feel proud. But to realize that there are more ways to express yourself and feel proud of yourself in life was hard.

She felt that without her career and stressing life she didnt feel so good about herself. After a few months being on her own, she realized she felt that she didnt love herself so much. She felt very insecure about herself and about her life. She wanted to enjoy her free time now but she couldnt cause she was not happy with being with herself without any role.

Learning to really Love Yourself

She really thought that just BEING Sonja was not good enough and so she was allways looking to prove herself and others that she was good enough.
How to find this Balance between liking what you Do, but not becoming what you Do. How to enjoy Yourself and really feel happy without any job. How to accept yourself when you are not feeling important. She realized that she had allways looked for Love and Approval outside herself. Her Mother and Father, her Brothers, her family, her friends, her job ,her boyfriend etc. But she never felt she was good enough, just being herself.
She allways dependent on others approval and Love. And off course, you become dissapointed in others and yourself if you don't get what you expect of others.

Dependent on yourself
So Sonja's biggest challenge in this period was to become only and totally depenent on herself for Love and Acceptance and feel good about herself. She was tired of all the dissapointments which she createded herself in her great expectations how others should behave or react on her. At that time she knew what she wanted and that was to truely know herself and to Love herself just for being so.

Professional Coach
She found a professional Coach who helped her with her self investigation. She learned really soften her business skills of being hard on herself and others. She learned to accept, feel and controle her emotions instead of becoming her emotions and get stucked.

Unique talents, communication & highly sensitive nature

Actually she learned with this Coach that one of her unique talents was her highly sensitive nature for emotions and feelings of herself and that of others and being able to communicate what those feelings are telling us and how we can transform negative feelings into positive. Her Coach teached her how to develop those natural skills and she explained why Sonja allways had chosen to prove herself by hard business. This way she didnt have to feel all that she is able to feel. Cause she allways tought that being so sensitive and vulnerable was a big weak point. But actually the opposit was the truth. The more sensitive she became the more she liked herself and the more other people liked her. So she allways proved that she was strong on the outside cause she knew she was weak and sensitive on the inside and afraid to show others.

Become the MASTER of your own thoughts, feelings & emotions
She learned to really change herself, to look with a different eye to the world and people, why she really started to Love herself cause her own unique natural Talents of being highly sensitive and able to communicate about inner feelings and translate them also for many other people is the greatest gift of all. Being able to just being yourself and serving other people who are going through hard times brings peace and harmony and Love into the world.

Our Unique Natural Talents gives us Happiness, Love, Peace and Joy cause with each of them we will make the World a little better, step by step.
This is her contribution to herself, to you and to the World. To teach people to really know yourself and love yourself is the Greatest Gift of All.

Become a Life Coach

Because of Sonja her Highly Sensitive Nature and her great craving for Self Development, Grow and Transformation she is trained for 3 years as a Coach and Counsellor and still studies at the Spiritual Akademie in Amsterdam
Beside that she developes her sensitivity and is educated by John Johnson for becoming a Pshycic and Medium. She learned and is still learning to use her high sensitivity to open up her spiritual gifts and use her strong intuition, her sixth sense during her work as a Coach and Counsellor.

Education
She is also educated in Positive Thinking, Free yourself from all forms of stress,  Stillness within yourself, Loving Yourself, All forms of Meditation, Raya Yoga, Breathing-Exercises, Dance for Happiness, Mediation, Children Coaching, the art of Loving, the art of Communication.

Sonja is also very fund of reading books with a Psychological and Spiritual Background. Writers who she admires and get a lot of Inspiration from are Paulo Coelho, Eckhart Tolle, Brandon Bays, Neale Donald Walsch, Byron Katie, Talane Miedaner, Joyce Meyer,Keith Ablow, Jan Spiller, Wayne Dyer, Stephan Covey, Dr. Roger Cole, Ton van Gelder & Fiona Vos, Elizabeth Mapstone, Jane Howard, Kimberley Maroony, Doreen Virtue, Willem de Ridder, Rudolph Steiner,  Dr. Roger Cole.

Life Mission & Passion

Sonja her life mission is that she wants to Learn People that painfull memories and experiences during our lifes have a negative influence in our daily lifes. Just like many others we are used to deny painfull experiences, situations and memories. We rather push them away and ignore them then to feel them and talk about them! Even when this old believes, feelings and experience are hurting us.

Face the Truth 

All this blocks us from just Being and enjoying OURSELVES!!

But if we try to hide them, the Truth will allways catch them sooner or later!! 
Facing the Truth and Learning to Love Yourself, will free your roadblock and make you able to create your own new Happy Life. Sonja's biggest dream is to help people all over the world to free themselves from negative mindsets, blocks and shadowsides. If we are truely Honest to OurSelves we are finally able to live the life we Truely deserve and use our Innerpower True Love.

The Truth will set you free and influence your life and that of others.

Bring Peace and Harmony to this World.
Sonja will show you what it is that is draining your energy, what is holding you back, what it is that you fear and how we all can transform that in bold steps to live our own Happy Lives.
Do not look for 'The One', just become 'The One "you are looking for, yourself. Be true to yourself and start to learn to really Love yourself and others, then you will be the Light and Magnet of Love where everybody wants to be with.You only have to choose what it is that You want!


Coaching & Counselling Face the Truth & Learning to Love Yourself are set up with love & pleasure.

Relation-Coach Sonja de Heer: 06- 229 27 448